Parentification is emotional abuse and leads to relational trauma.
👉 Parentification is a series of moments where there is role reversal, with the child stepping into the role of caregiver. The child in these situations is energetically and emotionally older than their parent. It can be easy for them to step into this call but they miss out on appropriate development, emotional attunement, and the joy of childhood by taking on a too big a responsibility.
This can happen in two ways. Instrumental parentification is when a parent assigns responsibilities that are not age or developmentally appropriate. Emotional parentification is when a child moves in to identify and fulfill the emotional needs of their parent.
An adult who was a parentified child may now struggle with...
- vulnerable intimacy in relationships
- have people pleasing and codependency
- appropriate boundaries
- deep abandonment and rejection wounds in relationships
✨️ This happens for a variety of reasons: emotionally immature parents, substance use, mental health issues, poverty and SES, parent's own childhood traumas, and lack of support.
Signs You Were A Parentified Child:
An emotionally healthy parent recognizes what is and what is not developmentally appropriate responsibility to give to a child. More importantly they know that their emotions are their one to manage and are secure enough with themselves in order to meet their own needs and desires.
💛 You can absolutely heal from the trauma of parentification. You can begin to differentiate yourself and your emotions from others by creating safety within yourself.
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Think you grew up with emotionally immature parents?
Keep reading to see if your experience compares to the common signs.
I know it may feel alarming or bring up feelings of resentment, but I want you to remember one thing: GENERATIONAL WOUNDS. Parents who are emotionally immature are wounded children. They are letting their wounded inner child run the show. And that sucks.
You know what would suck even more? If you let it run your life or pass it on to future generations. Instead you can feel the feelings of the impact and then take responsibility and heal.
SIGNS YOU GREW UP WITH EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE PARENTS:
TYPES OF EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE PARENTS:
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